A judge deciding what is in the best interest of your child may come up short. When it’s your children’s future on the line, it could be better to leave it to the people that know your family the best.

Studies have shown that what’s really the best upbringing for a child could get lost in the legal fray. The law vaguely defines the idea of best interest, bias can play a heavy role and a long list of criteria can leave the parental connection with a child marginalized. You and your children could be far better off if you work with your spouse using collaborative law to get a system for your family that comes from within.

Shared ruling

The courts may try to act in the best interest of your child, but a judge is only taking a glance into your life. Making a plan with your spouse could be the answer for a more personalized approach:

  • Parenting schedule: Determining how much time you and your spouse get to spend with your children is likely one of the most important things to figure out in your divorce. You’ll be able to discuss an agreement that works for you and your family, as opposed to what a judge may see as the best fit.
  • Transportation system: Spending time with your children is one thing, but getting them where they need to be is a whole other conversation. You’ll have to decide where, when and how you’re going to move between custody and visitation.
  • Open communication: You’ll have the ability to set all kinds of parameters, and boundaries can make for a healthy working relationship during shared parenting. You can set rules for contact concerning co-parenting like when and how they can contact you or your children, or the guidelines for altering parenting plans around changing schedules and holidays.

Craft a program along with your spouse to decide what’s best for your children. Putting them first can mean using collaborative law to work together.